“Mommy, I’m not perfect”

“An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips.” Proverbs 24:26.

Amen to that.  A…men.

I was in full Mommy teaching mode today with my six year old son David as I was challenging him on his current whining and complaining and brother fighting choices.

“David,” (insert serious Mommy voice) “why is it that today you can’t seem to go one minute without getting into trouble?”

“Mommy,” (insert looking straight into my eyes with utmost seriousness) “I’m not perfect.”

“Oh, well, um…uh,” (insert dumbfounded Mommy fumbling) “you know what, you are right David.  You’re not perfect.  I’m not perfect either.”

“Nope,” (insert God speaking through your child straight into your heart) “Only God is perfect Mom.  And people in Heaven.”

“You’re right David.  You are so right, thank you for reminding me of that.”

Well shoot.  Isn’t is just the best when your six year old sticks it straight to you.  Like, straight…to…the…deep…center.  The center that only God knows I needed speaking to?  Like the center you like to try and hide from the rest of the world, but God (and apparently young children) still knows is there?

These boys, they steal my heart everyday and each one of them is full of those precious and necessary "lovingly sticking it to Mommy" moments.  This pic was taken on the awesome dunes at Nags Head NC.
These boys, they steal my heart everyday and each one of them is full of those precious and necessary “lovingly sticking it to Mommy” moments. This pic was taken on the awesome dunes at Nags Head NC.
This little guy mastered smiling (and my heart) on vacation.
This little guy mastered smiling (and my heart) on vacation.  No mastering of sleeping though.  Still working on that one.
This girl crushed her some waves!  She even worked past her "are there sharks in these waters?" questions!
This girl crushed her some waves! She even worked past her “are there sharks in these waters?” questions!

Vacation was amazing and it did what great vacations should do: recalibrate you.  Re-ready you to go back into the trudge and the sludge of everyday life.  But my heart was heavy because I did not want to reacquire the bad attitude I had picked somewhere along the line.  The poor perspective that something was always not right instead of having the Godly perspective that with Him something is always right.  That bad attitude though, its never the root cause its only the symptom and my son was the one today who helped me to a diagnosis.

I had caught a good old case of perfectionism.  The ever deceitful and sneaky expectation that anything less than perfect is a fail.  It was leaving me burdened and living in tension, distracted by any little thing going wrong.  Of course my son is going to have a whiny morning…he is a kid!  Of course my house is going to have messy days…we live in it!  Of course my husband and I are going to not see eye to eye sometimes…we are married!  Of course my baby is going to wake up twelve times a night…he is a baby!  Of course conflicts come and go…we are human!  David’s comment reminded me that I need to stop letting normal life occurrences derail me.

Stay the course, stay focused, stay peaceful.  Perfection will come someday, but not this day.

I am so thankful for God’s Word and it spoken to me through my son.  I mean come on, is there an awesomer saying than “An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips?”  Its so true and there is such peace in knowing that God’s honest answers always come right when we need them.  And it does, like a kiss on the lips, feel like a reminder of how much we are loved and adored.

My kids are not perfect, neither am I…but “Amen” to the grace that we can offer one another in our imperfections.  A grace only a fraction of the size offered to me on a daily basis by my Heavenly Father.

For today I pray that a desire for the perfect would stop creeping in.  That “what everyone else is doing, saying, being” would clear out of view and that expectations on ourselves and our days would calm to a minimum.  Love our God, love others…any other small accomplishments our day might bring is a bonus.

Praying for peace, for a deep breathe and a letting it all go.  Praying that for me and for you this verse would take captive our day:

“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”  2 Corinthians 12:8-10

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