“If you love you than ‘erbody else is going to love you too!”

That is what Pastor Byron Davis said yesterday morning at Lake Forest Church and I just loved it to itty bitty pieces!  This small, seemingly insignificant quote got my brain moving in so many “insecurity related” directions.  The truth is, he so right.  This is not to say that people enjoy being around cocky people, I don’t believe that is true at all.  But what I do believe is breathtakingly true is that people feel safe about themselves when they are with confident people.

When we are insecure we take the whole world down with us.  It is as if we are drowning in insecurity and the only way to catch a breathe of air is push someone else down with us.  Insecurity tears down, compares, envies, criticizes, judges, and condemns all in the name of maybe feeling a little bit better about yourself.  I know for me insecurity has been a deceptive voice inside my head that says, “making them worse is the key to making you better.”  I hate that voice.  I hate that lie.

But a confident person…now that is what I am talking about!  They are able to lift others up, give praise, adoration, and love because they don’t need anyone else to feel better about themselves.  A person who loves themselves, as is, they don’t need to play the constant comparison game wondering if one day, just maybe, they will measure up.  A confident, secure, and content person is life giving, able to pour out onto others unconditional love and praise.

It might sound trite at first to say this, but Jesus is my favorite example of this.  Lots of people hated him.  Even more people criticized His every move.  The very people who He held dearest did nothing to protect Him from death.  But Jesus cared about impressing one person and one person alone: His Heavenly Father.

It boggles my mind sometimes to think about how strong Jesus was, how much He endured physically and emotional.  Of course it reminds me how weak I can be, but it also reminds me that I have His strength and His power that abides in me when I believe in Him.  I need to remember that more often.  I need to tap into Christ’s strength when I am not loving myself…worried about what others will think of my clothes, body, choices, hair, face, thoughts, words, house, car…

But if I love me, because Christ loved me first, then what’s not to love?  Am I perfect?  Not this lady, never.  Do I adore every inch of my physical body?  I try to.  But I have finally come to the conclusion that I love myself.  Sounds weird to say it, but I really do.

“May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had, so that with one mind and one voice you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.” Romans 15:5-6

I think that Grandma’s are really smart women.  They have stood the test of time and by the time you get to their age they say, “forget it with the nonsense!”  I was talking with my Grandmother the other day and she said, “Maria for a long long time I held onto guilt about all the things in life I didn’t do well.  All of my regrets and I held onto that guilt.  But I got to a point in life where I decided to let that go and let myself believe that I was lovable.  And I like who I am, Maria, I really do.”  Grandma’s strength and sincerity draws me in, leaves me at peace, and frees up my worried brain onto more important things.

I am so thankful for the people in my life who love themselves, making it so easy to love them back.  Do you have anyone in your life like that?  Who are they?

“And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds”
Hebrews 10:24

3 thoughts on ““If you love you than ‘erbody else is going to love you too!”

  1. OMG Maria – what a surprise to see me in your blog. My first thought was, Yuck, she couldn’t have picked a worse picture. But then I remembered the joy of the moments pictured with Aaron, Faith and Davey, three little great grandchildren I absolutely adore and who love me no matter if I’m having a bad hair day. And I realized that it’s a perfect example of the message in this blog – that I thrive on Christ’s love for me, no matter how I look. It’s what I do with that love that matters most. The words from a song by Shaina Noll ring in my ear,” How could anyone fail to notice that your loving is a miracle, how deeply you’re connected to my soul.” Love you, Maria

    1. I love you to Gigi! I am so thankful you were able to read the post and appreciate it AND your picture…regardless of the things we critique about ourselves. Thank you for being a loving example of strength 🙂

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