Proverbs 11:12 stopped me dead in my tracks this morning. “Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout is a beautiful woman who shows no discretion.”
Can’t you picture it? There is this ring. This beautiful, priceless, and attractive gold ring is the type that everyone wants. It is the latest and the greatest in the jewelry world and everyone gawks at its beauty. It is the talk of the town and what does its owner do with it? He puts it on a pig. That’s right, smack on the snout of a pig where the ring will be tattered, worn, and muzzled up close with garbage and dung for the rest of its life. What a sad waste.
The dreaded question in my mind was soon to follow, “Am I discreet with my beauty?”
True confession? I am 29 years old and I have spent the majority of my life being anything but discreet with my beauty. I already felt insecure and down about my looks so I thought playing them up would make me feel better. I cringe because I see it everyday in young ladies that remind me so much of myself. “If I put on this outfit, show a little here, and little more there than maybe I will finally feel good.” I still fall into the trap of the pig’s snout, throwing around my beauty as if it were anyone’s to see and admire…a habit I am sure our husbands, future husbands, and Dads don’t enjoy very much. Nor do the insecure women we encounter.
Don’t get me wrong, your beauty has been given to you. Your daughter, your sister, your friend is beautiful and it should never be smoldered! But are we to treat it like the gold that it is or treat it like a swine’s nose ring? Today if someone is wealthy, they are looked down upon and scorned if they squander their wealth away in excessive spending and debt. But if someone is excessively beautiful? Well then the world tells them to flash it around like it is no bodies business! “You show ’em girl!” What happened to our sense of responsibility? Our sense of taking care of a precious gift and treating it as such, instead of flashing it about?
My friend Myquillyn is a such a perfect example, to me, of how God wants us to treat our beauty. You can’t miss it. She walks into the room with the kind of stunning swagger that takes you captive. With her hair slightly curled and her subtle make up you cannot ignore the fact that she is gorgeous. But it is never all in your face like “BAM! Look at me I am a HOTTY!” Myquillyn is perfectly discreet, treating her body with respect, honor, and integrity. Poor lady, I am sure she hates the fact that I am doting over her…but truthfully she deserves every word.
Ironically enough, Myquillyn authors a blog called The Nesting Place with a mantra that I have embedded in my mind “It doesn’t have to be perfect to be beautiful.” Amen sister.
To me, this Biblical proverb calls for a redefining of ourselves and how we communicate our beauty to the world. No more, “If you’ve got it flaunt it,” but instead “Since you’ve got it, be careful with it.” Your gold nose ring will thank you someday, so will your husband, friends, and daughters.